Monday, May 23, 2011

Introducing ...

... "The Jack Pot" Fund!!!


It is with great eagerness, excitement and overwhelming pride that we introduce to you something that has been in the works for months but has been within our hearts since the day of Jack's birth.  After Jack's birth on May 28, 2010, as new parents to a child with special needs, we found ourselves navigating the twisted roads of this unexpected journey, and with the help of many caring people who were just strangers to us at the time, we quickly learned what an incredible and rewarding experience it is to have a child with Down Syndrome.

Our little Jack has everything he could ever want ... lots of toys and books, wonderful therapists, and the medicines he needs to stay healthy.  But not all of his friends do.  So, to honor and celebrate Jack and other children like him on his first birthday, we have created "The Jack Pot" Fund.  "The Jack Pot" Fund will benefit Jack's friends in need who are part of the Down Syndrome Network of Greater Greensboro.  Once "The Jack Pot" is more established, this fund will be used to help local families of children with Down Syndrome pay for expensive medical or therapy co-pays, medications, or medical supplies that they struggle to afford on their own. 

No child should go without what he or she needs to prosper, especially when help is out there.

Please help us help Jack's friends in need and consider a donation to "The Jack Pot" today! 

To donate, please visit the DSNGG website at http://www.team-up.org/ and click on "Donate" at the bottom of the page under the "Hit the Jack Pot" description.  (Be sure to type in "The Jack Pot Fund" when you see the "This donation is for ..." prompt!)

All our love and many thanks,
Korey, Robert and Jack Hickling

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Welcome to Holland ...

... Michigan, that is! Last week, we enjoyed a wonderful few days in Michigan, visiting Robert's brother Matt and his wife Kelly (who's expecting a baby girl this October!!! :). We found out that there's a town called Holland in Michigan, and what do ya know ... they had their annual Tulip Time Festival while we were there! Learning of this while watching the local news one day, you just know we had to plan a trip!!!

I know most of you are familiar with the "Welcome to Holland" essay by Emily Perl Kingsley (www.journeyofhearts.org/kirstimd/holland.htm). I couldn't resist remembering her words as we visited Holland, Michigan, as well as be moved by how far we've come on our own journey.



" ... you catch your breath, you look around ... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills ...



... and Holland has tulips



... be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland."


























Holland is beautiful ... we think we'll stay a while.

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Mother's Day

To all the mothers out there ... whether you are a mother, a grandmother, a great-grandmother, an expectant mother, and mother-in-law, or not a mother yet at all, I hope you all have a very wonderful Mother's Day! This is for you ...


One Flaw in Women


By the time the Lord made woman,

He was into his sixth day of working overtime.


An angel appeared and said,

"Why are you spending so much time on this one?"

And the Lord answered, "Have you seen my spec sheet on her?

She has to be completely washable, but not plastic,

have over 200 moveable parts, all replaceable,

and able to run on diet coke and leftovers,

have a lap that can hold four children at a time,

have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart

- and she will do everything

with only two hands."


The angel was astounded at the requirements.

"Only two hands!? No way!

And that's just on the standard model?

That's too much work for one day.

Wait until tomorrow to finish."


"But I won't," the Lord protested.

"I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart.

She already heals herself when she is sick

AND can work 18 hour days."


The angel moved closer and touched the woman.

"But, you have made her so soft, my Lord."


"She is soft," the Lord agreed,

"but I have also made her tough.

You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish."


"Will she be able to think?" asked the angel.


The Lord replied,

"Not only will she be able to think,

she will be able to reason and negotiate."


The angel then noticed something,

and reaching out, touched the woman's cheek.

"Oops, it looks like you have a leak in this model.

I told you that you were trying to put too much into this one."


"That's not a leak,"

the Lord corrected,

"that's a tear!"


"What's the tear for?" the angel asked.


The Lord said, "The tear is her way of expressing her joy,

her sorrow, her pain, her disappointment, her love,

her loneliness, her grief and her pride."


The angel was impressed.

"You are a genius, Lord.

You thought of everything!

Woman is truly amazing."


And she is.

Women have strengths that amaze men.

They bear hardships and they carry burdens,

but they hold happiness,

love and joy.

They smile when they want to scream.

They sing when they want to cry.

They cry when they are happy

and laugh when they are nervous.

They fight for what they believe in.

They stand up to injustice.

They don't take "no" for an answer

when they believe there is a better solution.

They go without so their family can have.

They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.

They love unconditionally.

They cry when their children excel

And cheer when their friends get awards.

They are happy when they hear about

a birth or a wedding.

Their hearts break when a friend dies.

They grieve at the loss of a family member,

yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.

They know that a hug and a kiss

can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.

They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you

to show you how much they care about you.

The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning.

They bring joy, love and hope.

They have compassion and ideals.

They give moral support to their family and friends.

Women have vital things to say and everything to give.


However, if there Is One Flaw In Women,

It is that They Forget Their Worth.


-Author Unknown


Although I have been receiving cards on this day for the past 7 years from our four-legged "first born," I have certainly enjoyed my first "official" Mother's Day today. It's been a day a day of pajama lounging, a late breakfast, and lots of playtime, snuggles and kisses. I was treated to a wonderful hour long massage yesterday afternoon for Mother's Day (much-needed), and I got the cutest and sweetest cards from all three of my boys today (including the furry one! :). Last night, Robert and I treated our parents to dinner and then I took my mom and my mother-in-law downtown for a Triad Stage performance of Steel Magnolias. It has always been one of my favorite movies, and the actors in the play really did the story justice. It's such a wonderful story about the powerful relationships that women share, especially that between mother and daughter. There wasn't a dry eye in the crowd, and as I sat there between my mom and Mary, I felt so very fortunate to have such amazing women in my life to share my journey with. It has been a wonderful weekend, full of immense love.

Mothers are remarkable beings, and being a new mother has really made me appreciate my own mother (I love you, Mom!) and all the other mothers I know out there, especially my two sisters who are such inspiring women, our dear friend Melissa who cares so genuinely for our Jack, and both of my sisters-in-law who are currently expecting their first children this summer and fall. To all of you ... please know how much you are appreciated and loved, and please ....
never, ever forget your worth.

Monday, May 2, 2011

VOTE FOR US!!!

A dear friend, Stephanie Goodrich, has nominated me for the TriadMomsonMain.com's Mother of the Year Award!!! Stephanie and I just met a matter of months ago when her husband Dan was recruited last year to Moses Cone Health System as a new physician in Robert's hospitalist group. Stephanie and Dan have a sweet, beautiful little girl named Ivy who is just about to turn the big 1!!! (Jack and Ivy have (play)dated, and he's a big fan! ;) Let me tell you, folks ... Greensboro is much better place with this wonderful family here!



I feel so very honored to have been nominated, and I feel even more blessed to have friends like Stephanie who believe in me enough to nominate me for such an amazing award. Among all the nominees, I have been chosen to be among the Top Ten Finalists! I love that my little blogging habit has propelled me into this world of possibilities for moms and for individuals like Jack.



So, please ... if you feel so inclined, you may visit http://www.triadmomsonmain.com/ and vote for me from today (May 2nd) until Friday, May 6th! I can't think of a better Mother's Day gift than to be honored in such a way!



(Thanks again, Steph!)

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Jack's First Easter



When you think about kids and Easter, you typically imagine egg decorating and hunting, gifts from the Easter bunny, chocolate and jelly beans. Well, given that Jack is still too young for all this, we decided to focus today on what Easter is really about.


We attended our church's 11 am Easter service this morning, and as usual, Jack distracted the church members around him, smiling and laughing and babbling to them all. I'm not kidding when I say this ... this kid LOVES church! He loves to listen to the voice of our pastor Bill, and he can't get enough of the music and choir. It's too cute. Our pastor tells us all the time that he loves to hear Jack babble and giggle during his sermons, and we hope he means it ... we secretly keep waiting for someone to gently "remind" us that there is a nursery service available for babies on Sundays. But for some reason, I honestly doubt this will ever happen, given the celebrity status Jack has adopted with our church family. :)


I mean, who could resist this face?!?!

Robert and I both admit to not attending church often enough, partly due to being out of town a lot and partly due to letting other things "get in the way" of it (which we always promise to change but don't always follow through). But every time we do go, Robert and I always talk about how much better we feel for having gone and how it's such a nice way to end the week. Well, today was no exception ...

Maybe it was the fact that our pastor talked about the feeling of needing to be rescued at times in our lives. As he spoke, I thought back to a time in my life nearly 11 months ago when I sat in a hospital bed after delivering a beautiful baby boy, and professionals were already telling me that was wasn't perfect. I remember feeling angry, sad, cheated, alone ... and, well, like I needed to be rescued. I also remember just wanting grab Jack and run off with him to an island where there were just mothers and their children with Down Syndrome, so we wouldn't feel so alone and so ... different. I felt a desperate need to fit in but also a desperate need to flee all at the same time.



But something our pastor also talked about this morning was resurrection. He didn't just talk about resurrection for the obvious reason (it's Easter, duh), but he spoke of how maybe when we feel like we need to be rescued, we might actually be seeking resurrection of some sort ... a rebirth, a new start, a fresh perspective, new found faith and empowerment, an everlasting love. While I listened, tears welled up in my eyes as I looked over at my husband holding my sweet Jack (who was smiling at a nice elderly lady behind us and making her laugh, yet again). I realized at this time that I did not need to be rescued that day last May when Jack was born. Instead, I actually realized that I had become resurrected in some way that day ... as a new mother, an everlasting advocate for a child, reborn as a person whose heart was more open to difference, change, and most importantly, more open to love. It's incredible how one moment can be the most frightening and the most wonderful moment of your life, all at the same time.



Flower cross




We hope that all of you had a wonderful Easter, filled with love and family, and that today you felt at peace, believing in whomever or whatever you believe in, be it God or simply the love of a child. Today, I found peace believing in both. It was certainly a wonderful first Easter for our Jack. Church, followed by brunch at Pops and Grandma's house with family and dear friends, then a nice nap (for us all). It was a day in which everything just seemed to fall into place ...









Friday, April 15, 2011

Happy Birthday, Carter!

Tomorrow is a BIG day. It's not just Saturday. It's not just April 16th ... it's Carter Montgomery's FIRST birthday!!!!

For those of you who don't know Jack's BFF and fellow extra-chromosome buddy, please meet Carter ...

Dear Carter,


We hope you have a wonderful first birthday, little man. It seems just like yesterday that I contacted your mommy and we met at Ben and Jerry's Ice Cream for our very first Down Syndrome Network Moms' Night Out. You and Jack were only just a few weeks old then and so very tiny. Your mommy and I knew early on that she and I had a very special bond, that our families would be wonderful friends, and that you and Jack were going to be terrific buddies. It's hard to believe that nearly a year (and many playdates) later, tomorrow you are turning the big ONE! You and Jack are growing up so fast, and while it's hard for your mommy and me because we'll always see you as our babies, we love seeing you develop into the unique and wonderful people you are. And, we cannot wait to see you two grow up together and be the very best of friends!


Carter, on your first birthday and everyday, please know how very special you are ... not because you have an extra chromosome, but because of who you are, where you came from, and the love that surrounds you and your family. We love you very much, Carter! Happy Birthday, little man!


See you very soon, Korey (and Jack :)